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332. crumbling is not an instant’s act

Most of the time people forget the lessons that historians and leaders would like us to remember. Whether it’s a natural disaster or a pandemic, each enter our collective consciousness as they arise, seemingly out of nowhere. Novel as they seem in the moment, they are often remnants of unresolved themes of the past we continuously fail to learn from and correct. We think this time it’s different, forgetting that even though history doesn’t repeat itself, it does rhyme.

After a flood washes out huge sections of oceanfront property, people rebuild their lives on the same spot. After this pandemic, it’s likely, people will go back to their old habits of taking their health for granted. Unfortunately, we have a culture that doesn’t remember because they’re blasted with a story that says this time it’s different, backed by a media portrayal that exacerbates a narrative that our way of life was right all along, while disregarding any clues that may have shown up along the way.

There’s a poem by Emily Dickinson called Crumbling is not an instant’s Act which shows things need to build before they can happen. It reads:

Crumbling is not an instant's Act
A fundamental pause
Dilapidation's processes
Are organized Decays.

'Tis first a Cobweb on the Soul
A Cuticle of Dust
A Borer in the Axis
An Elemental Rust—

Ruin is formal—Devil's work
Consecutive and slow—
Fail in an instant, no man did
Slipping—is Crash's law.

The emphasis on Crumbling is not an instant’s Act and Slipping—is Crash’s law is mine, as I think it poetically illustrates that things don’t simply happen out of nowhere, they take time. The bottom doesn’t just drop out, things have to creak, weaken and give way. It’s our choice to look the other way when we hear the squeaks. It’s our choice to be consumed by the nonsense of telling us not to pay attention to the clues. It’s our choice to be coerced into a false sense of confidence that is perpetrated by popular narrative, saying we are on the right path. But are we really?

We’re continuously assured that this time it’s different. This time it came out of nowhere. No one could have known. The voices of popular media seek to placate our worries by reaffirming our way of life is the correct one, yet, if that were true we would learn from our past. Instead we confidently walk toward a cliff, ignoring the signposts along the way that warn us of the upcoming drop. Then we’re surprised when we eventually walk off the edge.

So how do we change? If getting us to learn from our past doesn’t work because we’re too busy wrapped up in the now, lost in the blatantly false narrative of going the right direction, then how do we keep from repeating our past failures? Generally, the way people change their mind and thus correct their path isn’t because of a single lesson, it’s through a tumbling of dominos. It’s the same principle Dickinson reaches for with Crash’s Law. It’s a gradual shift. Built with awareness over time, until a crescendo eventually happens one way or the other. We either learn, or repeat our same mistakes.

The problem comes with who is controlling the information we’re receiving, the narrative, the ideas being sold because they’re all going to influence the questions we ask and the actions we take. The best way to create positive change to our situation is to become aware of what is going on around you. Look for the signposts. Each one is a domino falling. New information leads to new thoughts, which leads to new questions that evolve into new actions. There’s no fall without warnings of a cliff ahead.

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177. more information doesn’t help

Most of us know what things we need to do to improve our situation. We know that eating bad food isn’t going to help us lose weight. That working more isn’t going to help us catch up on our sleep. And that spending money isn’t the quickest way to financial freedom. Yet, even though we want to be in shape, well rested, and financially stable, we fail to carry out the very things that would make those things happen. 

We stand in the way of our own progress because the path we’re on is familiar. Familiarity is comfortable. It’s proven to be the path of least resistance for the life and identity we’ve created. But that path we’re on is directed by the story we continue to tell ourselves. And it’s always going to be easier to simply repeat or retell our story, than it will be to rewrite the narrative and institute the change we desire.

More information doesn’t help, until you begin to change the narrative you live by.

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fuck you with a smile!

The first comedy special I ever saw was Eddie Murphy Raw. Fucking classic. The genre of music I fell in love with was 90’s Hip-Hop. Fucking great. And the most influential person on my career was Charles Poliquin. Fucking amazing coach. Point being there have been a lot of f-bombs in my life, so it has become part of my vocabulary to the dismay of some around me.

I get it, it’s not for everyone. But for me, it’s one of the most interesting and versatile words in the English language. There are almost 30,000 words that begin with the letter F, and it is the only one that is referred to as the F-word.

It’s the one magical word, just by its sound can describe pleasure, pain, hate, love, and exasperation. 

It falls into many grammatical categories, for example:As a transitive verb; Corona fucked everybody.As an intransitive verb; Corona fucks.

The meaning is not always sexual, for example:

It can be used as an adjective; “I’m doing all the fucking work.”As an adverb; “You talk too fucking much!”As an adverb enhancing an adjective; “You are fucking beautiful.”As a noun; “I don’t give a fuck!”As part of a word; “Un-FUCKING-Believable” or “In-FUCKING-Credible”And, as almost every word in a sentence; “Fuck those fucking fuckers.”

There isn’t another word with the versatility of the word fuck. Look at how it can be used to convey the following sentiments… 

FRAUD: “I got fucked at the deanship today.”
DISMAY: “Aw, fuck it.”
TROUBLE: “I guess I’m really fucked now.”
AGGRESSION: “Don’t fuck with me.”
DIFFICULTY: “I don’t understand this fucking question.”
INQUIRY: “Who the fuck was that?”
DISSATISFACTION: “I don’t like what the fuck is going on here.”
INCOMPETENCE: “He’s a fuckup.”
DISMISSAL: “Why don’t you go outside and play hide and go fuck yourself?”
And the classic, CONFUSION: “What the Fuck did I just read?”

All I’m saying is that it’s a great word. If you don’t like it FUCK YOU! :)

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